The divorce rate among members of the armed services in Missouri and around the country was 3 percent in 2017, according to figures released in March by the Department of Defense. The Pentagon says that 2017 is the fourth consecutive year that the military divorce rate has fluctuated between 3 and 3.1 percent. This figure is determined by comparing the number of married service members at the beginning of the fiscal year with the number of divorces reported during the year.
Based on a Supreme Court ruling on May 15, an ex-spouse of a Missouri veteran might have his or her share of that veteran's retirement pay cut if that veteran's retirement pay is reduced because of a waiver to receive disability benefits. In the case that reached the nation's highest court, a couple divorced in 1991 and agreed that the wife would receive half of the husband's retirement benefits. After the man's retirement in 1992, they both collected retirement pay.
Far too often we fall prey to ideas that have been repeatedly foisted upon us throughout our lives. One of these ideas is that the holidays are by definition a time of togetherness and celebration. And while this can be true in some instances, it is hardly a rule. In fact, the unrelenting pressure to make holidays cheerful often produces the opposite effect in many people.
As a service member in our country's armed forces, you have likely learned many valuable lessons about hard work and discipline. After all, the habits and values espoused in the military are intended to help you get through the most challenging situations imaginable. But did you ever stop and consider how the techniques used for military training can be effectively applied for parenting purposes?
If you married a member of our nation's armed services, you likely anticipated that you would have to make numerous sacrifices. Of course, there are long periods of time when your spouse is deployed or on maneuvers during which you are solely in charge of all household duties. You may have also had to move numerous times, following your spouse to his or her next assignment.
As a service member, you spend much of your intellectual and physical energy helping to protect our country. And sometimes marital relationships can suffer when service members must spend so much time away from home. As a result, you may find that you and your spouse are no longer able to remain happily attached.
Military life can present families with many challenges. A service member on active duty can face long stretches of time away from home. This separation can be all the more difficult if the service member is stationed in an area of armed conflict. Meanwhile, the family must learn to adapt to this absence, all the while worrying about their loved one's well-being.
Divorce has a negative connotation in society, implying that a marriage has failed or that the married couple could not put forth the effort required to make the marriage work. Despite this, divorce is not something that a married couple should avoid simply because of what society says. Here's the truth: people change, and marriages that were once happy may simply morph into a union that is no long viable for one or both parties involved. This is especially true for people in the military.
If you serve in the military or have ever served in the military, chances are that you know or knew an extremely young couple that married in their early twenties, perhaps even in their late teens. It is not uncommon for young military couples for a variety of reasons, but the numbers speak for themselves. More than 40 percent of active military service members are in their early twenties, and of those 40 percent, more than half are married.